You Might Feel All Mixed Up
Losing someone close to you can bring all kinds of different
feelings. You might feel sad, mad, happy, scared, or lonely. Talk about how
you are feeling right now with someone who cares about you.
Some Things Will Change
Sometimes you might feel like you want to die so that you can be in
heaven, too. But the person who cared so much about you wants you to be a
kid and do the things kids do-to grow up and live a long and happy life.
Your special person will be with you in spirit, and love you as you grow.
Kids Can Help Others- Even Grown-Ups
Sometimes you may be afraid youíll make someone sadder if you ask
questions or talk about the person who died. Grown-ups need to talk about
the hurt, too. Itís good, even if all you do is hug and cry together.
Itís Not Your Fault
You may think you caused your loved one to get sick and die. If you
feel this way, tell a grown-up. That person can help you see it wasnít your
fault. If youíre sad about a time you think you hurt your loved one, talk
about this, too. It will help.
Itís Good to Remember
It will be hard not to share special things with that person you
loved- like hitting a home run or being in a school play. Your loved one
will still know about those times and share in your pride and happiness.
Youíll Be Taken Care Of
Remember that being sick usually does not mean someone will die. Most
sicknesses or injuries heal on their own, with rest and sometimes medicine.
Give It Time
Someday-maybe soon-you will feel better. It wonít hurt so much. You
will never forget the one who has died, who will always have a special place
in your heart. But when you think of him or her, you will think of the good
Where Is Your Loved One Now?
Some people think about death as a birth Ė the new birth of the
spirit. Itís like a caterpillar changing into a beautiful butterfly! Your
loved one is free and happy and beautiful now.